Six Month Anniversary

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Today marks six months since my move to Hawaii! Moving here is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Hawaii is a place for restoration, rejuvenation, and clarity. Here are three powerful life lessons I have learned since moving here:

1. Fear does not have inherent power, we allot its power. The truth is that we can choose how much influence fear has over our actions. Admittedly, I was absolutely terrified to move to Hawaii. I had no idea how I was going to afford it, where I was going to work, what I was going to do, nothing. Instead of allowing fear to make me a slave to my mind, I decided to look fear right in the face and move forward anyways. I also want to add that absolutely none of my fears have come true, not a single one. From this experience, I realized that fear does not have to stop us, ever.

 2. Be present and relax. Living here has taught me to relax. Worrying and running around in a panic are not conducive to our well-being or the well-being of those around us. Worrying is such a consuming activity that typically has no benefit. I see now more than ever that life is always on our side, if only we stop fighting it. I have learned how to embrace uncertainty and I am freely relaxing in the arms of God.  I am finally allowing my life to flow uninterrupted.

3. You can run but you can’t hide. Many people move to Hawaii to escape something whether it’s emotions, experiences, or just life itself. Admittedly, I genuinely believed that coming here would eliminate some of the things I didn’t want to address directly. But, the bottom line is that we can’t run from life. Life will continue to present the very things that we try to run from regardless of a new location. The truth is that peace comes from within us. If we are unhappy on the mainland, we will be unhappy in paradise (Hawaii). The cause of our unhappiness is that we refuse to accept life’s invitation to embrace its full range of experiences. Paradise is wherever you are, as you are right now. 

 This journey is simultaneously beautiful, frightening, and incredible. Mahalo for reading!

With deep love & appreciation,

Candace

Float

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This past weekend, my boyfriend and I flew to San Diego to visit some of our friends. One of the main things my boyfriend wanted to do was go to FLOAT Spa San Diego. He raved about the benefits of the spa including deep relaxation, mineral cleansing, pain relief, and access to theta brain waves which is known to activate our creativity and imagination (our brains are thought to be in theta when we are dreaming). He explained that we would be in a “float tank” or “sensory deprivation tank.” The float tank is filled with approximately 800-900 pounds of salt water, which creates a gravity-free environment where our bodies can float effortlessly.  He also added that the tank is closed, creating a sensory deprived environment, where it’s completely dark and soundless.  The sensory deprivation aspect of it elicited some anxiety within me but as the days progressed and I researched more about it, my anxiety lessened.

We went to the spa a few days early to make sure we could find the location. To our surprise, the spa was still open (it was about 9 pm) and one of the staff members offered to show us the tanks. Upon seeing the tank, anxiety hit me like a ton of bricks. I was terrified. I don’t even know what it was about the tank that elicited so much anxiety but I was truly frightened. The tank was about 9 feet long and it looked like a pod filled about a 1/4 of the way up with water. I believe I was expecting the tank itself to be clear (which wouldn’t matter since the lights are completely off) but whatever it was I was scared. I didn’t tell my boyfriend how scared I was because he was so excited about it and I knew that I would be able to overcome my fear. We booked our appointment for Monday evening and left the spa.

In the car, my mind produced a stream of anxious questions “how do they maintain the hygiene?” “what if the door gets jammed?” “what if…etc” I didn’t share them because I knew it was all just mind chatter. The answers were on the website, which eased my anxiety. Additionally, having a few days in between seeing the tank and our appointment was helpful.

We arrived for our appointment and the anxiety was minimal. A woman with a huge smile on her face and lots of energy talked to us about how wonderful her experience was, which created a nice calming effect for me. We brought our towels and drank some tea before being escorted into our separate rooms by the staff member. I must commend how wonderful the staff was, they were all professional, kind, and comforting. They answered all of our questions and spoke about the benefits of floating.

I took a shower before getting into the tank and set my intention to meditate on love and gratitude the whole time. I took several deep breaths, got into the tank, and laid on my back allowing the warm water to surround my body. My instant thought was “this is incredibly relaxing” and a smile was planted on my face. I thought to myself “this must be what babies feel like in their mother’s womb.” Gentle music helped me settle into the environment. Gradually, the water seemed to become a bit chilly (my boyfriend attributes this to the fact that I didn’t close my tank door all the way) which was slightly distracting. The music gradually stopped, cueing me that 10 minutes had passed and the motion sensor made the blue light in the room turn off, leaving the tank completely pitch black. My anxiety heightened but I was able to breathe through it. I closed my eyes and attempted to meditate.

As soon as I closed my eyes, I started to hear a gentle thumping sound and realized it’s my heartbeat. Hearing my heartbeat was incredibly calming. I had some difficulty finding a comfortable position for my arms (at first they were over my head, then I put them on my abdomen, then under my body, then back over my head). I also found myself trying to go into a deeper meditation and a calming female voice said “just relax, Candace, just relax.” After I heard the voice, I heeded its message not at all startled by hearing a voice. After I allowed myself to completely relax, the water seemed warm again. I did not dream but I felt complete peace. I felt consciously “beyond my body” while in the tank during the last 30 minutes. The music came on again, indicating that I only had ten minutes left. I got out and showered, taking a moment to reorient myself to my body. I remember looking at my arms strangely for a moment as if I had never seen them before. I was welcomed by my boyfriend and the staff and felt such a sense of peace and calm.

My conclusion from my first float experience is that everyone should try it! There’s no other environment like it (that I’m aware of) and it really does provide a unique experience. Once you’re able to work through your anxiety and/or mind chatter, the relaxation you feel is unparalleled. I recommend doing it for 90 minutes like we did because it may take a significant amount of time to acclimate to the environment. Have any of you floated before? What was your experience like?

Mahalo for reading! May you experience infinite peace and blessings!

With deep love and appreciation,

Candace

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*image of a float tank, courtesy of gravityspa.com

Unplug

UnplugImage courtesy of Microsoft Office ClipArt

Take a moment to unplug. Turn off your phone, get off of the internet, silence all notifications, and don’t check your e-mail, even if it’s just for 5 minutes.  I recently started a position as a Crisis Therapist and now more than ever, I recognize the importance of unplugging and relaxing. Being that I am regularly on-call, I find myself continuously plugged in even when I don’t have to be. I laugh when I catch myself repeatedly checking my Facebook page thinking that I have missed something incredibly important. The reality is that we are not going to miss anything by unplugging for a moment but we do miss quality face-to-face interactions and intimate moments with our loved ones when we are plugged in 24/7.

After coming to terms with the fact that I tend to be plugged in more often than not, I have decided to make an agreement to turn my phone completely off when I’m not on call. This has been a challenge but it allows me to relax into the moment. I encourage you to do the same. What do you say?

Mahalo for reading! May we all experience infinite peace and blessings!

A Message from the Island

HanaWaterfallA Waterfall on the Road to Hana in Maui, HI (10/12/13)

I have been in Hawai’i for almost two months now and the take-home message I have received from the island is to relax. Relax, relax, relax. Relax because we usually do not have control over the things we worry about nor does worrying help resolve problems. Relax because it feels good to be at peace and it benefits the world when you are basking in serenity. Relax because the Universe is caring for you. Relax because that’s when our creativity flows. Relax because it is our natural state.

From the island to you, this is a reminder to relax. Take care of yourself and release any guilt that may be associated with doing so. You deserve peace and serenity.

Mahalo for reading! May we all experience infinite peace and blessings.