Intentions and Behaviors

Turtle Bay is one of the spots we love to visit.

Turtle Bay is one of the spots my love and I enjoy visiting.

How often do we look to see whether our behaviors are in alignment with our intentions? Although I used to say that my relationship with my partner was my number one priority, energetically and behaviorally, my priority was work and my business. More often than not, I allowed work to consume the majority of my time and energy throughout each day. I would even allow work to be the dominating topic during conversations with my partner, until one day I realized, it simply didn’t feel good nor did it make sense. If I’m claiming that my relationship with my partner is my number one priority, then why was so little of my energy going to our relationship?

I was out of alignment. My intention was to make my relationship number one but that intention did not find its way down to my behaviors, at least not until things began to feel bad. And that’s how it sometimes goes with us humans, it’s not until we suffer that we really start to become conscious of what’s going on, which is why I believe, pain is a gift. The pain led me to wake up and see the disconnect between my intention and behaviors. Once I became aware and was able to feel the consequences of my choices, I was then able to truly make my relationship a priority in my life.

The truth is intention is not enough, our actions must match. Many times, we do not realize that we’re saying one thing but doing another. Fortunately, I no longer take for granted my partner’s loving and patient attitude, and I recognize that it is my responsibility to walk my talk.

Mahalo for reading! May you experience infinite peace and blessings!

Pilgrimage to Kaua’i

Waimea Canyon

Waimea Canyon on February 27, 2015

Two years ago during a meditation, I saw a beautiful vision of the Nā Pali coast line on Kaua’i. At the time, I had never even heard of Kaua’i nor did I understand the vision, all I knew was I wanted to visit. Upon moving to Hawai’i and conducting more research, I learned that Kaua’i is considered “The Womb of the Earth,” and it is believed that it’s a portal that souls pass through before attaching to a body. Fortunately, I was able to make the pilgrimage to Kaua’i on Friday and it was absolutely life-changing. Here are just a few of the lessons that came up during my visit:

  1. Unplug completely. I intended to work one hour the morning of my trip. I wanted to respond to a few e-mails and post the daily quote to my business’ social media pages but Kaua’i had other ideas in mind. On the island, my phone had limited service and minimal internet access. The lesson was that I needed to unplug completely and be fully present. Sometimes the things we think we need to do right away don’t actually need to be done at that particular moment.
  2. Put it in perspective. Having the opportunity to look at the breathtaking views of Waimea Canyon (photoed above) had a huge impact on me. As I stood there admiring the magnificence of the site, my worries seemingly dissolved. In fact, I couldn’t even remember what I was concerned about earlier in the week. Most of the things we worry about simply don’t deserve our attention nor are they truly relevant in the grand scheme of life. A simple exercise of “putting it in perspective” can help us prevent unnecessary suffering.
  3. Life is dynamic, responsive, and interactive. Life responds to us. At first, that may seem obvious or ridiculous (depending on your beliefs) but when you recognize it happening in the moment, it’s miraculous. Prior to visiting, I set the intention to see five rainbows on Kaua’i. Within the first hour, I saw four rainbows. I also concluded early on that I probably wouldn’t be able to see the Nā Pali coast this visit and made peace with that conclusion. To my surprise, we found an unexpected path that would allow us to see the Nā Pali yet when we arrived, it was completely foggy. I deeply believe that we see what we expect to see. When we expect something, we are going to actively look for supporting evidence to confirm our expectations.
  4. There is always something to appreciate about where we are right now. There was a time when I believed I wanted to live on Kaua’i. I wanted to live away from the city in a more secluded area. However, my visit gave me a deeper appreciation of O’ahu and the convenience of city life. Instead of striving to be somewhere else, sometimes it’s helpful to first take a moment to deeply appreciate where we are right now.
  5. Trust. I went to Kaua’i without a plan (except to work the first hour, and we see how that plan went, ha!) and it ended up being an amazing trip. Historically, I meticulously planned my trips in an effort to make efficient use of time, which now seems mostly unnecessary. I was only on Kaua’i for a short time yet I felt like I was there for a week. Everything was perfect even though it was unplanned. There is so much peace related to trusting the process and going with the flow.

These are just a few of the lessons that came up during my pilgrimage to Kaua’i. What a truly magnificent place! Below is a Kauaian sunset captured on February 27. Mahalo for reading!

Kauaian Sunset

Hau’oli Makahiki Hou!

Happy New Year beautiful people!

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My favorite holiday is New Year’s because it’s a clear opportunity to reflect and renew. The new year is an opportunity to let go of what holds you back to make room for abundant opportunities. Take a moment today to embrace all that has happened in 2013 and to also express gratitude for all that has brought you to this very moment, then set your intention for 2014.

1) What is your overall focus for 2014? (Choose one word)

2) What do you want to let go of, starting today?

3) What is something you have always wanted to do? Make a specific plan towards accomplishing it in 2014.

4) Set at least one goal for the following areas in your life:

  • Personal
    • spiritual health
    • physical health
    • emotional health
  • Social
  • Hobbies/Leisure
  • Career
  • Financial

5) Make sure your goals are SMART goals (Drucker, 1954)

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant
  • Time-Bound

6) Create a specific PLAN for your goals. Make sure your plan includes what you can do starting TODAY as well as specific steps guiding you to the finish line.

Mahalo for reading! May you experience infinite peace, blessings, and prosperity now and in 2014!

*photo courtesy of fireworkfactoryoutlet.com and Google images. SMART idea attributed to Peter Drucker in Management by Objectives in The Practice of Management, 1954

Dreams Do Come True

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney

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Aloha dear friends, the big day has arrived! I’m writing to you from the LAX airport. In just a few hours, I will be making my move to Hawai’i! As I sit here, I can’t help but think about all the experiences that culminated to get me to this very moment. It’s amazing how so many different things conspired together to help me reach my dreams. Recently, I looked back at an old vision board I created approximately five years ago and to my astonishment, many of the things on the board have come to fruition. Admittedly, I am a believer in the law of attraction but I am also a believer in taking steps to make things happen. For now, the formula I’d like to propose is: Intention + unwavering belief + following through step by step = dreams come true.

Mahalo for reading! Wishing you all infinite peace!