3 Lessons Learned from Owning a Business

I officially launched my business in December of 2013, and since then, I have learned three valuable lessons:

1) Our “spiritual work” can be done from right where we are, there is no need to go anywhere else. Previously, I contemplated becoming a nun because I believed that being in a monastic environment would help me “awaken” faster. The truth is that right where we are is the best place for us to be. We are exactly where we are for a reason and it is in fact the perfect place for our “spiritual work.” Additionally, it is not so much that we need to learn anything as it is more about remembering what we know deep within, which is who we are and who we are not. We can learn just as much in our current environment than we can by running off to a monastery. The teacher is life itself, regardless of where we are.

Owning a business has taught me how to surrender to what is and to completely open my heart. These are the very lessons I hoped to learn by going off to a monastery, and to my surprise, I learned them right in the heart of a metropolis. Every situation, every place, every person we encounter is apart of the spiritual process, we are truly right where we need to be.

2) Fear in and of itself is not a problem, allowing it to paralyze us is. A dear friend of mine, Rosetta Thurman, recently said “Do it scared!” and I completely agree. Fear may be present in our awareness but we give it permission to debilitate us. Fear is just a sensation that comes and goes, there is no need to cling to it or assign it value and power. Let fear do its own thing and we can still do ours. There have been numerous occasions where had I listened to fear, I would have sabotaged amazing business opportunities that were presented to me. After observing fear for what it is, it becomes much easier to proceed despite its presence.

3) Any sentence that has the word “should” in it, is not based in reality. The word “should” moves us further away from acceptance. When we spend time seriously contemplating the “shoulds,” we create more distress because nothing “should” be any different from how it is now. When we acknowledge, accept, and appreciate where we are, we recognize that “should” is not a useful term. Running a business has helped me eliminate the word “should” from my vocabulary and replace it with words that are present-focused and/or active.

The moral of this story is that life offers lessons everywhere. Every situation is a call to awareness, a call to come home. Before running off to somewhere other than “here,” open your eyes to the richness that exists right where you are.

Mahalo for reading! May you experience infinite peace and blessings!

With love & appreciation,

Candace

Six Month Anniversary

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Today marks six months since my move to Hawaii! Moving here is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Hawaii is a place for restoration, rejuvenation, and clarity. Here are three powerful life lessons I have learned since moving here:

1. Fear does not have inherent power, we allot its power. The truth is that we can choose how much influence fear has over our actions. Admittedly, I was absolutely terrified to move to Hawaii. I had no idea how I was going to afford it, where I was going to work, what I was going to do, nothing. Instead of allowing fear to make me a slave to my mind, I decided to look fear right in the face and move forward anyways. I also want to add that absolutely none of my fears have come true, not a single one. From this experience, I realized that fear does not have to stop us, ever.

 2. Be present and relax. Living here has taught me to relax. Worrying and running around in a panic are not conducive to our well-being or the well-being of those around us. Worrying is such a consuming activity that typically has no benefit. I see now more than ever that life is always on our side, if only we stop fighting it. I have learned how to embrace uncertainty and I am freely relaxing in the arms of God.  I am finally allowing my life to flow uninterrupted.

3. You can run but you can’t hide. Many people move to Hawaii to escape something whether it’s emotions, experiences, or just life itself. Admittedly, I genuinely believed that coming here would eliminate some of the things I didn’t want to address directly. But, the bottom line is that we can’t run from life. Life will continue to present the very things that we try to run from regardless of a new location. The truth is that peace comes from within us. If we are unhappy on the mainland, we will be unhappy in paradise (Hawaii). The cause of our unhappiness is that we refuse to accept life’s invitation to embrace its full range of experiences. Paradise is wherever you are, as you are right now. 

 This journey is simultaneously beautiful, frightening, and incredible. Mahalo for reading!

With deep love & appreciation,

Candace