Every Moment Matters

Sunset 1-10-15

Yesterday, when I snapped the photo above, a driver of a jeep (going about 35 mph) hit a cyclist. After hearing the loud noise, I turned around to see pieces of metal flying. Initially, I thought the jeep’s tire exploded but then I saw the driver and the passenger get out of the vehicle and rush to the front of the car, looking at the ground in shock. Immediately, I knew they had hit someone. My assumptions were confirmed as an ambulance arrived on the scene and the EMT workers put the cyclist on the gurney. The bike was upside down, seemingly stuck under the jeep. In just a flash (literally, a shutter flash), lives were instantly changed.

Witnessing the accident served as a reminder that every moment matters. Our lives can be taken at any time. We are not going to live in human form forever. There will be a day when our lives as we know it will cease to exist. Knowing that our time here is limited makes me incredibly appreciative of the experiences I’ve had and it also makes me more encouraged to take action on the things I want to do before passing. Our time here is precious and I choose to see that as a beautiful blessing and a loving reminder to live fully.

Please keep all those involved in the accident in your thoughts.

Change

“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again.” -Pema Chödrön 

Things come together, things fall apart, and things change. It’s one thing to know that everything changes but it’s another to truly appreciate it. There is a sense of vulnerability, humility, and gratitude that comes with truly understanding that all will change. Over the past few weeks, several areas of my life have changed quite drastically. While it would be easier and also habitual to cling to what was, I have chosen to appreciate the changes for what they are and for what they are revealing to me.

Whenever things change incongruently with our plans, the accompanying vulnerability and humility produce fear but also create a refreshing and more clear sense of reality. Any suffering that occurs as a result of these changes shows us where we need to let go and where we have been clinging to a reality that we created only in our minds. Additionally, we are being reminded to appreciate the uniqueness of every moment for the mere fact that all circumstances will eventually change forms.

If we allow it to, change reveals within us a raw vulnerability that we often try to avoid and hide most of our lives. However, if we appreciate this vulnerability and accept it openly, we create a space for true fulfillment. Our strength is in our vulnerability and it appears as though life is continuously trying to remind us of that truth.

Mahalo for reading! May you experience infinite peace and blessings!

With deep love and appreciation,

Candace

Death is Nothing At All

I found out yesterday evening that a dear friend of mine passed away on Monday. There are some tears of sorrow but there are also tears of joy and all tears are welcome here. I am so grateful for the time we were able to spend together. As I cried, I could feel my friend telling me “I’m just fine, be happy.” The following poem came to mind so I thought I would share:

Death is Nothing at All

Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.

All is well.

Written by Henry Scott Holland

Perhaps most importantly, I am reminded that life is a beautiful gift and opportunity to spread love. Let us live our lives fully and lovingly because truly that is all that matters.

Mahalo for reading dear friends! May you experience infinite peace and blessings!

With deep love & appreciation,

Candace